Round about here

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The man had four faces

All taking him to different places

Turning his cape with the wind

To find whatever the moment could bring

Skipping corners in the round about

Here?

 

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LIFE’S VIGNETTE

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We as humans only feel secure if we are loved.  But if we are rejected, we become terrified.

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Choosing to be small

in life’s petty bickering

secures peace of soul…says Therese of Lixieux

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“For us, there is only the trying.  The rest is not our business.”  –T.S. Eliot

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I dont wanna miss one word you speak ♡ ♡

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I dont wanna miss one word you speak ♡ ♡

The phrase “you have two ears but one mouth because you are to listen twice as much as you talk” keeps running around in my head. Living it now that is another story. So, in my quest for improving myself for better tomorrows the research down below was very welcomed. Hope it might inspire you too.

  • Good listening is much more than being silent while the other person talks. To the contrary, people perceive the best listeners to be those who periodically ask questions that promote discovery and insight. These questions gently challenge old assumptions, but do so in a constructive way. Sitting there silently nodding does not provide sure evidence that a person is listening, but asking a good question tells the speaker the listener has not only heard what was said, but that they comprehended it well enough to  want additional information. Good listening was consistently seen as a two-way dialog, rather than a one-way “speaker versus hearer” interaction. The best conversations were active.
  • Good listening included interactions that build a person’s self-esteem. The best listeners made the conversation a positive experience for the other party, which doesn’t happen when the listener is passive (or, for that matter, critical!). Good listeners made the other person feel supported and conveyed confidence in them. Good listening was characterized by the creation of a safe environment in which issues and differences could be discussed openly.
  • Good listening was seen as a cooperative conversation. In these interactions, feedback flowed smoothly in both directions with neither party becoming defensive about comments the other made. By contrast, poor listeners were seen as competitive — as listening only to identify errors in reasoning or logic, using their silence as a chance to prepare their next response. That might make you an excellent debater, but it doesn’t make you a good listener. Good listeners may challenge assumptions and disagree, but the person being listened to feels the listener is trying to help, not wanting to win an argument.
  • Good listeners tended to make suggestions. Good listening invariably included some feedback provided in a way others would accept and that opened up alternative paths to consider. This finding somewhat surprised us, since it’s not uncommon to hear complaints that “So-and-so didn’t listen, he just jumped in and tried to solve the problem.” Perhaps what the data is telling us is that making suggestions is not itself the problem; it may be the skill with which those suggestions are made. Another possibility is that we’re more likely to accept suggestions from people we already think are good listeners. (Someone who is silent for the whole conversation and then jumps in with a suggestion may not be seen as credible. Someone who seems combative or critical and then tries to give advice may not be seen as trustworthy.)

While many of us have thought of being a good listener being like a sponge that accurately absorbs what the other person is saying, instead, what these findings show is that good listeners are like trampolines. They are someone you can bounce ideas off of — and rather than absorbing your ideas and energy, they amplify, energize, and clarify your thinking. They make you feel better not merely passively absorbing, but by actively supporting. This lets you gain energy and height, just like someone jumping on a trampoline.

Read full article here https://hbr.org/2016/07/what-great-listeners-actually-do

 

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The butterfly effect

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Pain is found in the gap between expectations and reality.

When paying attention to what we have instead of focusing on the empty parts happiness is found. ♡ ♡

We start to notice all the small things and are more appreciative to all around us. ♡ ♡

When we walk towards gratitude we simply get happier and happier. ♡ ♡

Joy finds its place to spread like ripples in water. ♡ ♡

For this is the way of love and joy that a smile and an act of kindness is transferred from person to person throughout the day. ♡ ♡

Our actions permeate through a bigger crowd than we often realize. Like butterflies with a butterfly effect we all have wings, even though they are fragile. ♡ ♡

 

I need Love from above to take the foot out of my mouth whenever needed, and let a gentle loving butterfly appear ♡ ♡

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They used to flow through me

Our love poems

I used to show them&

Some readers used to know them

And in the flow of them

Was the beat of a breathing heart

A wind in my sail that ceased to prevail

From this numbness comes a call

An outpouring that says it all

Pins and needle’s final fall

Come life

Come love

Come creative chest

My treasure

Flow and form our riverbed

Where streams&beams of love

Move us in stillness

Living out a poet’s dream

Gone forever silent scream